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My son was delivered in a reputed Hospital In Dhaka, Bangladesh . Three Doctors were present during the Labor . The main Gynecologist was related to my wife she is her Aunt (Uncles Wife from fathers side) .I in the first place was against going to Doctors who are related to us. It was my wife's decision and the influence of my in-laws that caused us to go the particular Hospital. She was all along under treatment of one Senior Gynecologist and her aunt ,but when the time of Labor came she choose to go to the Hospital where her Aunt works. At the day of her labor we went to her Aunts house my wife was in great pain and the Doctor told her that she was in advanced stage and she was already five fingers open. She sent us to OT room direct but she choose to stay in her Practicing Chamber and came very late after one hour after several Phone calls from us .My wife was put on the table just then she arrived. I will never forgive her for that. Finally my son was born Cyanosed, cord around the neck , Birth asphyxia, Myconium ingestion . He was in Oxygen and Saline, on top of everything he had OBPI. They took all necessary precaution for my son. We were out of the hospital in seven days. Now I am in big DILLEMA whether to SUE the Hospital for MALPRACTICE or not. I can sense there was malpractice and negligence of Doctors in the labour room they could have done C section . I am in terrible agony everyday and wishing this didn’t happen to me. I have kept silent so far and didn’t point fingers to anybody yet. Since last month I have become part of this community and I am very proud to be part of this community. I am indebted to you all for the valuable support and advice. I value the communities opinion .Now I urge you folks to give me your opinion as to if you were in my shoes what you should have done. Shall I sue the Hospital for malpractice or not???


Munam

Munam,

I agree with what Lyn posted and I want to add this:

I know that you are very angry and very emotional right now. AND you have every right to be. We ALL know exactly how you feel and you have the added burden of having a family member involved. But Wasi is still very young at 5 weeks, and he still has a chance at recovery. I know you are a prayerful man. Try to latch onto the positive and pray for his recovery.

If by chance that it doesn't happen and his injury is severe and you must travel all over the world to seek help for him - well THEN you need to find the best lawyer you can find and do what needs to be done.

Find out if there is a statute of limitations in your country / area. This means - is there a time limit as to when you can sue? and if so when is it? Here in my state (every state is different) we had two years to file a lawsuit for ourselves and for Maia and if we missed that date - well then Maia could file a suit until she is 18 years old. So there was some time to make this decision.

So for now - I will join you in praying for Wasi's recovery.

God Bless you and your family,
francine

Munam:

I understand your dilemma...try working for the hospital that you know played a part. Keep up the prayers.

I too, worked and cared closely for my midwife and at first believed there was negligence however my opinion has mellowed over the years...I also went thru the dilemma and what the deciding factor for me was- would it hurt other children if I chose not to persure her legally- My child is already injured- it is not avoidable for him at this point- and due to our circumstances and my opinions, I believe my child was actually better off if I did not in fact sue- but- I had to assess for myself whether or not I had an obligation , a moral obligation to help other children- I talked to others who sued and I talked to attorneys too- For me the decision to persue litigation was about whether my higher power put me on the path to do that- and I had to look at it- and it sucks and it is painful.
I am blessed to say that it was not on my path to do-
and I will say a prayer of clarity,strength and wisdom that you will be guided to do whatever you need to do...
I would also take into consideratuion your wife and her opinions as this could well both require and be the source of much unity between you two-
I think you might need your wife's support in this matter but then again, I dont know what its like in your country-
blessings my friend- mary