i read the message about when they start telling to others. and ask questions. EVERY CHILD HAS HIS OWN time to start realise that they are different with the arms,when they do tell them as it is. tell them what happend. till 7 years they do not want to know the details. some will listen for 2 minutes others keep on asking questions. give them the time tounderstand, to deal with it. some will react very emotinal others don't care or give the impression they don't care. you know your child the best. if they have for your feeling to much questions, make appointments now 3 next time 3 and so on. be aware that they know from early age that there is something different. and it it difficult to tell because you also have your feelings about it. be honnest with them that you are also hurt.
and give them the feeling that they can always ask about there arm and that having bpi gives them other skills nobody has. so far the "social worker/psy" speaking.
my own experiences: when he was 2 1/2 he started to realise something was wrong with his arm. i told him about being stuck, they had to pull and that was to hard now....we used a marionette doll (doll on wires)and cut the one from the arm and explained it that way. later we took a telephone cable and showed the different wires and cut those. we let him see what happend inside the body. later (6) we discussed the message to the brain. he said: the mail doesn"t get dilivered. we also showed him how handsome he is by doeing so much qwith one hand. i wore a sling for 2 days and did everything wrong with one hand to let him see. now we notice it's gone there are no more questions and he doesn't want to anwser questions from others. i have one arm finished. no explaination. if he wants to he will tell other wise not his discision.
monique