nickname given by others

[Mare]

I'm not sure how I should feel about this since it doesn't bother Frankie. Heres what happened I went yesterday to get an oil change at the place frankie has worked for a year now. All the mechinic are young and really like Frankie and have the same interests, muscle cars and paintball and they are amazed how he can do so much one handed. Now let me start with the fact that there are 3 Frankies working there and they all abuse each other verbally and my son is right in there with the name calling and practical jokes. Well the one mechinic called out lefty's mom is here for an oil change. How should I feel if at all about this nickname. Mare

[Carolyn J]

I know, I know Moms hurt when name caling is going on... but #1 there are 3 Frankies there; #2 it's more important how Frankie feels about being caled "lefty";
#3 did you ask Frankie what the other 2 Frankies are called? ( it may help you fel better about "lefty")

Also, "atitudes and atmosphere of acceptance" seem more important too. that's my "2 Cents" on this.

Hugs to you both,
Carolyn J
ps... how are you doing health-wise?

[marieke]

If it doesn't bother him it is fine. It's not what you think (sorry, speaking as an OBPI), but what he thinks. I know it hurts your feelings too, being his mom, but really, it's how it affects him as he is the one they are name calling/nicknamed him.

I agree with Carolyn, find out what he thinks and what he calls the other 2, you may be surprised!!

I was named called by unwanted "friends" and had nicknames from friends. These are two different things. The nickname never bothered me, only one did and I spoke up and it stopped. It was not meant to hurt me, but it did and I said so and so it stopped. I was 18 at the time too.

Talk to Frankie and get his thoughts

[CSMITH]

I KNOW IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR PEOPLE TO CALL NAMES,BUT I AGREE WITH THE OTHERS IT MAY JUST BE A FRIEND NICKNAME AND NOT A BULLY BEING MEAN.ATLEAST IT ISN'T HIS DAD CALLING HIM NAMES.MINE CALLED ME NAMES.WHEN I DIDNT DO MY THERAPY WHEN I WAS A CHILD.THAT WILL HAUNT YOU TILL THE DAY YOU LEAVE THIS WONDERFUL WORLD.AND IF YOU TRY AS AN ADULT TO TELL HOW YOU HAVE FELT FOR HIM DOING THAT,"IT NEVER HAPPENED".I AM NOW ALMOST 40 AND ROBPI,I THINK THAT HURTS WORSE THAN A BULLY OR AN AQUAINTENCE CALLING A NAME.SORRY FOR GOING ON AND ON JUST HAD TO VENT A LITTLE:)

[Mare]

The one other Frankie is called Dumb A-- so I guess lefty is better Thanks Everyone Mare

[eolson]

Through junior high I was nicknamed "Aebleskiver", and I wasn't even bald.

[smith727]

I have been called to date:
Handiman, T-Rex, Chicken wing, Short Arm and Nemo... Lefty sounds pretty good to me.

BTW: "You know how to get Chicken Wing to fall out of a tree?"

Answer: Wave at him!

(That little zinger made the rounds for a while.) It seems like it's something that comes with the territory. I'd say Lefty isn't bad at all.

[Mitch90]

i used to always get one arm... But i played baseball better than most people you just gotta show them up and you'll get respect. I also had some other names but i forgot them

[F-Litz]

They used to call me "bubbles" or "Friday" when I was a kid. My husband started calling me "franny banani"
and Maia calls me "MEAN MOMMY".

Any of that is way better than FATSO MATSO and actually I'm still friends with the guy who called me that - after 40 years, too!