Really need support - non BPI
Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2002 7:46 pm
Wells folks I feel like my world has just started spinning out of control and I can't find a darn thing to grab onto to make it stop!
My father went for a Life Screening yesterday and they found a large (7.6 cm) abdominal aortic aneurysm. Now keep in mind as I start to ramble here, my father is the healthy one! We went to a cardiac vascular surgeon this morning and a cardiologist this afternoon. In order to make sure his heart is strong enough to endure the difficult surgery and recovery they are doing a cardiac catheterization on Friday. If the heart is okay they will most likely do the surgery on Saturday. The surgery is extremely intense. He will have at least one night in ICU and a 4 to 7 day hospital stay, with a minimum 3 month recovery.
I feel numb. My father is not only the healthy one but the strong one. He has truly not been sick a day in his life with anything more serious than the flu. He has never been in the hospital unless it was to visit my mother or I. I expect things like this to happen to my mother, who has survived cancer(two different kinds), diabetes, heart problems, kidney problems... and so on. My parents are both so young... Mother is going to be 63 on Sunday and my Father will be 62 in May.
I have spent the last two days being so strong for everyone...my parents and siblings. My brother is so upset he has not even been able to actually speak to anyone but me. My sister is a mess. I am concerned that my mother is going to worry herself into a heart attack. Adam, my son, isn't much better than my sister. He was able to spend a little time with my parents this afternoon and seems to be a little better now. My husband took him out on the boat to distract him, both of them actually. My mother in law and sister in law have been wonderful!!!
I am sitting here crying as I type this.. it is the first time I have allowed myself a mini break down. Not sure I am going to be able to stop crying now!! LOL I know I am probably not making any sense but I really needed to just ramble to someone.
When I had my first surgery my father was the first person I saw when I woke up. Mother needed to go get some air and my father refused to even step outside the waiting room until he talked to the doctor. Even then he stepped out for about 5 minutes and was back in the recovery waiting room... waiting for me to wake up. He had to see me for himself before he would leave to even get something to eat.
My father drove a truck for 37 years before retiring last July. He was awarded 3 MILLION SAFE DRIVING MILES. There have only been around 150 in the history of the company that have done that. My father married my mother who was divorced with FOUR kids,three teen agers and me. He had never been married or even seriously involved before. I can't imagine what he must of thought when he fell in love with us! LOL He has been our rock for 30 years.
I know we will be fine. But, I would really appreciate all the prayers you all can muster being sent our way the next few days.
I need a break. Later
Joy
My father went for a Life Screening yesterday and they found a large (7.6 cm) abdominal aortic aneurysm. Now keep in mind as I start to ramble here, my father is the healthy one! We went to a cardiac vascular surgeon this morning and a cardiologist this afternoon. In order to make sure his heart is strong enough to endure the difficult surgery and recovery they are doing a cardiac catheterization on Friday. If the heart is okay they will most likely do the surgery on Saturday. The surgery is extremely intense. He will have at least one night in ICU and a 4 to 7 day hospital stay, with a minimum 3 month recovery.
I feel numb. My father is not only the healthy one but the strong one. He has truly not been sick a day in his life with anything more serious than the flu. He has never been in the hospital unless it was to visit my mother or I. I expect things like this to happen to my mother, who has survived cancer(two different kinds), diabetes, heart problems, kidney problems... and so on. My parents are both so young... Mother is going to be 63 on Sunday and my Father will be 62 in May.
I have spent the last two days being so strong for everyone...my parents and siblings. My brother is so upset he has not even been able to actually speak to anyone but me. My sister is a mess. I am concerned that my mother is going to worry herself into a heart attack. Adam, my son, isn't much better than my sister. He was able to spend a little time with my parents this afternoon and seems to be a little better now. My husband took him out on the boat to distract him, both of them actually. My mother in law and sister in law have been wonderful!!!
I am sitting here crying as I type this.. it is the first time I have allowed myself a mini break down. Not sure I am going to be able to stop crying now!! LOL I know I am probably not making any sense but I really needed to just ramble to someone.
When I had my first surgery my father was the first person I saw when I woke up. Mother needed to go get some air and my father refused to even step outside the waiting room until he talked to the doctor. Even then he stepped out for about 5 minutes and was back in the recovery waiting room... waiting for me to wake up. He had to see me for himself before he would leave to even get something to eat.
My father drove a truck for 37 years before retiring last July. He was awarded 3 MILLION SAFE DRIVING MILES. There have only been around 150 in the history of the company that have done that. My father married my mother who was divorced with FOUR kids,three teen agers and me. He had never been married or even seriously involved before. I can't imagine what he must of thought when he fell in love with us! LOL He has been our rock for 30 years.
I know we will be fine. But, I would really appreciate all the prayers you all can muster being sent our way the next few days.
I need a break. Later
Joy
) Hang in there gal !!