An incident that happened to us.

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Tessie258
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Joined: Fri Nov 09, 2001 8:15 pm

An incident that happened to us.

Post by Tessie258 »

The other day Jameson said the funniest thing(funny/in a sarcastic way, maybe he's getting a little calloused).....Since he has been wearing a wrist brace he has had more people ask what is wrong with his arm(like now the brace is a conversation opener!)

We stopped by my husbands welding shop to talk to him for a minute and one of the workers there asked Jameson, "Did you break your wrist?" Jameson looked at him and said, "No"......that's all. The guy was sitting there like should I ask another question? Jame didn't volunteer anything and we left. I asked him out in the car if he was offended or if he just didn't feel like telling the guy what was wrong and he said, "Mom, that guy isn't smart enough to get it anyway"

I thought it was pretty funny and sad at the same time. The sad part is that you just get so tired of educationg people who really don't give a darn anyway. I sometimes get so frustrated because is someone asking because they are curious or are they just killing time or what? I wonder about the ambulance chaser syndrome that makes us curious about what could happen to another fellow human.

Anyway, I guess there will be days when Jameson wants to share and days when he doesn't think it's worth it. It has to be his choice. With teenagers I have learned that if it's their story they have the option to share or not share. I have to bite my tongue and let it rest there.
Have a great day!
T.
Kathleen
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Joined: Sat Nov 03, 2001 5:33 pm

Re: An incident that happened to us.

Post by Kathleen »

Good for Jameson

Sometimes its not worth the effort to explain.
Sometimes its ok and you feel like answering the nosy questions and other times you just want people to pretend they did not notice... I don't think that ever changes.

There are times when someone asks whats wrong with my arm and I don't mind answering and I use it as a way to educate... but their eyes glaze over and I know they think this could never effect them! They just don't get it!
And then there are the rewarding times. Last year someone asked me about my arm I told her all about it. Her eyes did not glaze over as if bored she asked for Awareness Packet and duplicated it sent it to all her nieces of child bearing age and gave it to one who is a Pediatric PT.... That was a day it paid to answer the question.

This injury always has its ups and downs and Jameson is maturing into how to handle it... but teenage years, at best, are like being on a roller coaster.... good for him he did well... so did you by not jumping in... so pat yourself on the back its hard to be the Mom and not want to jump in and protect your cub...
Kath
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