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Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 7:39 pm
by milkmoney
Inspired by Amy's post (my bpi story), I'd like to introduce myself by pasting an excerpt from my personal blog. Interestingly enough - my first post ever (out of sixty) details my birth injury. The blog entry is titled:

For the Love of Forceps

Let’s start at the beginning: May 21, 1979 at 12:03 AM, I was born screaming and crying into this world. Weighing in at over 10 lbs, I was too big to slide gracefully from the birth canal so the doctors yanked me free with forceps (which explains the screaming and crying). My mom tells me it’s a miracle I survived – I was blue from a lack of oxygen. They’d had to act quickly with those forceps, and in all the haste and excitement it seems they forgot I was a delicate baby. The force used to extract me broke my left arm and ripped the nerves in my neck responsible for rotation and movement of my right arm. This type of injury is common enough to have its own name – Erb’s Palsy.

What does it mean? It means that I can’t turn my arm over, palm up; that one arm is about 1 ½ inches shorter than the other; that I can’t do pull-ups; that I attract stares when bowling, writing on a chalkboard, giving a high-five, drinking a soda or accepting change when carrying groceries in my left hand. It means that even though I’m right-handed, I’ve learned to do almost everything (save for writing) with my left hand. This includes putting on makeup, shaving and eating. And to tell you the truth, I wouldn’t know the difference except that I take exceptionally long showers (ever try shaving with your non-dominant hand?) and spend forever getting ready to go out. It’s either the Erb’s or being female – take your pick.

And every once in a while, a stranger has reminded me I have Erb’s Palsy. The girl at the lunch table who said I eat like a Barbie. The UPS guy who asked, “What’s wrong with your arm?” The cashier at the coffeehouse who asked if I was a dancer. When I explain that it’s partially paralyzed from a difficult birth, the response is almost always, “Oh, I thought you were just graceful.” Apparently the stiffness in my arm makes me look “proper” and “stuck-up,” or so I’m told. I guess there are worse things a girl could be – brain damaged, wheelchair bound or even dead.

And once, while waiting tables, a large family asked about my arm. Their granddaughter had just been born with Erb’s Palsy and they were worried for her future. How would she grow? Would she be ‘normal’? Seeing me, the relief on their faces was unmistakable. Yes, Folks, for all intensive purposes – I am normal.
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Thanks for reading, nice to meet you - I wish it were under different circumstances :)

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 7:51 pm
by Kath
Beth
It's nice to meet you thanks for introducing yourself.
Your story is so familiar it seems as if we all have so much in common when it comes to life experiences.
Except some of us have lived longer.

Kath robpi/adult

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 9:46 pm
by BIGJAVSMOM
Beth- wow!! I got chills. Do you write? My son has ROBPI. severe injury, had surgery about 6 moths ago. And I often joke about how very normal he is. I have had people ask me if he will ever lead a normal life...


MArlyn

p.s welcome to ubpn.

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 10:07 pm
by Kath
Marlyn
People ask if he will ever be normal?
That is funny...
I hope I am never just normal... LOL...
Kath

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 11:39 pm
by hope16_05
It is very nice to read another person point of view in their personal story. THanks for sharing!
Amy ROBPI from MN

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 1:52 am
by Tanya in NY
You have a gift with your talent for putting words down for others to read. Eloquent, humorous, insightful, and truthful. I am envious of this talent.

Might I say, it appears after reading your post that you have grown to simply accept your injury for being a part of who you are and not as a disability. I hope my own daughter grows in that same manner.

Thank you so much for this post. It was very, very touching to me.

Tanya in NY
(Amber's Mom, ROBPI, 2 1/2 years)

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 1:56 pm
by admin
I love your story. I enjoyed reading it. The way it was written...I really liked it. It was an interesting look into your world. Makes me wonder if my daughter will feel the same way as you one day. If some of those same words would come out of her mouth one day? Time will tell.
~Krista~

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 3:13 pm
by Carolyn J
Hello "Milkmoney",
I just found your post. I wish I had your gift of expression. It really is hard for me sometimes....believe it or not,Kath!....I also am envious of your ability to be a waitress. I was always scared of applying for 2 jobs when I needed extra money to make ends meet. I am clumsy and do drop things and trip over my my feet alot so I think maybe it was/is wise not to serve the public that way.
Best wishes & please post again.
hugs,
Carolyn J
Adult LOBPI/ age 67 & proud of it!

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2013 12:36 pm
by Carolyn J
Bumping up re Shaving tips...
Carolyn J
LOBPI/74

Re: Another bpi story

Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2014 2:16 am
by Carolyn J
I re-read this post...sorry "shaving" is mention once. But what a big inspiration for me to re-read!
Hugs to all who read this and be inspired. Everything is possible for us BPI-ERS!
Carolyn J
LOBPI/74 ...still learning from everyone who posts here