BPI family on Dr. Phil, Dec. 13th

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Tanner's Mom
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BPI family on Dr. Phil, Dec. 13th

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I can't believe I am writing this, but I guess it is time to get over my shyness and reservation in sharing this with our community. Awhile back there was a post encouraging parents to write to the Dr. Phil Show for a medical topic show. I almost did not write, but thought, what the heck, I am always up for awareness. About four days later I received a phone call from Paramount Studios and spoke at length with an associate producer from the Dr. Phil Show. For a week they called a few times each day and we would chat about various things. Before I knew it, the producer called a few times and both the assoc. prod. and producer was soon speaking with my husband and daughter. I knew they were speaking to many other families, so I still didn’t think too much of it, but somehow it seemed like we kept making the cuts.

We quickly learned how fast Hollywood moves....we found out we were chosen on a Tuesday, the film crew arrived on Thursday, and by the following Tuesday they were flying our family out to Hollywood. The Producer, Associate Producer and staff were all WONDERFUL to work with. They were just so awesome! All of this could make one just a wee bit nervous, but they were all just so nice and comforting. They spoiled us rotten with amazing hotel accommodations, food and top of the line transportation. My husband even had a stretch limo all to himself on his return to the airport. He deserved it after what I got him into! :)

So during the filming with Dr. Phil all I basically did was cry and cry. I knew it would be a very emotional experience for me, but I had no idea that so many emotions would suddenly come to the surface. I just balled like a little girl. My family and teenage daughter had lots of fun making fun of me after the show because of all the dramatic and funny facial expressions I made. Not exactly the way one would like to see him or herself on national TV. Plus, I am not portrayed in the most favorable light and look like a pretty pathetic mom. Oh well, I knew getting into this that it would be about drama, and that our strengths as a family or as individuals would by no means be highlighted in the show and they certainly were not.

I wish the show was specifically about the injury, but the show just focuses on relationships and how this has impacted the family, in particular mom. Dr. Phil did learn to say Brachial Plexus Injuries for the first time in his life, although he said it paralyzed the shoulder, and somehow left out the arm :). Oh well, Hollywood usually only gives you half the story. Viewers (which I was told include 5-6 million people) will get a personal glimpse into the pain, hurt and sadness that such an injury can cause in a family, and they will learn that babies can being seriously injured at birth, so that makes my personal vulnerability and the risk we took worthwhile.

By the way, it was funny, because one of the producers spent some time on the UBPN website gathering information and reading the message board. He even read the Dr. Phil post and said, “looks like we caused a little commotion over there”. I assured him, nothing new…..drama and controversy have visited these boards on more than one occasion! Funny, since we never really know who may be lurking around here.

Anyways, that’s our story for now.

Take Care,
Lisa

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Post by Paula »

Lisa GREAT JOB!!!
What channel is Dr Phil on? Sorry, I don't watch tv on weekdays as I try to spend alot of time with my young ones. What time?
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Lisa,
How exciting! Dr Phil is the only show I watch during the day if I can - it comes on here in TX at 3:00 on channel 4. If there was ever a show that I think would impact an audience it would be his! How brave of you and your family. I can understand the crying - sometimes I know that I try so hard to be so strong but when asked certain questions - especially about the ones I love sooooo much - I can't help but get emotional. I'm sure you did just great and thank you for having the courage to do this.
Dr Phil, I feel, will send out the right message because of the types of shows that he does that deal with family and feelings.
Thank you and I'm looking forward to seeing you on TV!
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Post by Allison »

Wow, wow, and triple wow!!! This is awesome. Great job Lisa!!!!
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That's awesome Lisa! Congrats to you and your family for having the strength and courage to get awareness out there!
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Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: LOBPI. I am 77 yrs old and never had a name for my injuries until 2004 when I found UBPN at age 66.

My injuries are: LOBPI on upper body and Cerebrael Palsy on the lower left extremities. The only intervention I've had is a tendon transplant from my left leg to my left foot to enable flexing t age 24 in 1962. Before that, my foot would freeze without notice on the side when wearing heels AND I always did wear them at work "to fit in" I also stuttered until around age 18-19...just outgrew it...no therapy for it. Also suffered from very very low self esteem; severe Depression and Anxiety attacks started at menopause. I stuffed emotions and over-compensated in every thing I did to "fit in" and be "invisible". My injuries were Never addressed or talked about until age 66. I am a late bloomer!!!!!

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Re: BPI family on Dr. Phil, Dec. 13th

Post by Carolyn J »

WOW Lisa! Thank you,your husband & daughter for having the courage to go on National TV for awarenss of not only BPI families and what we live with..,but giving visiblity for what all families with a child/children and an adult with any disability lives with. Sometimes it takes a mother crying thru the "telling" to get others to really listen. You and your family certainly deserve the royal treatment you recieved. THANK YOU for accomplishing alot for all of us who have lived in the background and with ignorance for soooo long.
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Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: Hi! I am Laura, the mom of Tyler, who has a ROBPI. I've been a member of this site since 1998 and owe a great deal to the wonderful people in the UBPN community who have helped us along the way get what we needed to get done for Tyler. Tyler is now 14 years old and in the 9th grade. He's a super bright kid and loves his video games. Tyler had the mod quad surgery with Dr. Shenaq shortly before he passed. That was his first and only surgery. Now that he is older he is requesting additional surgery. He'd like to be able to supinate. Our goal is for Summer 2013.
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Re: BPI family on Dr. Phil, Dec. 13th

Post by tylergsmom »

WOW!!! What a great chance to get the word out!! This gives me goose bumps just thinking about it. Great Job Lisa!!!

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I never watch Dr. Phil so thanks for posting it - I'll definately watch this episode. Thanks!!
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Congrats to you and your family for making it on the show. There are a lot of emotions involved with this injury. I cannot wait to see it on Monday.
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Re: BPI family on Dr. Phil, Dec. 13th

Post by Tanya in NY »

Lisa, this is wonderful for your family and awareness. Like I've told you before, I'm sure it was better than you think it was! And remember, we all understand those funny faces and tears...we've been there too. You are your own worst critic. I think that it took a very brave Mom, Tanner, and the rest of the family to be on National TV relaying in a very short period of time the devestating effects this injury can have on a family. Kudos to you and your family! If only we all were this brave!

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