Court,
I couldn't have said it much better!
Everyone needs to be respectful in their statements here. Until you have walked in someone else's shoes, you have no right to comment on their "abilities" or "faults"; you just cannot know the 100% truth if you aren't them!
TBPI and OBPI are coming from difffernt places; parents come from differing vantage points than the injured children. We all DO what we can--what we feel is "the best" possible scenario.
The one thing we have in common is we must face this injury each and every day and do -and make- the best with it that we can. This is why these message boards exist: to help one another; not to tear each other apart!
Peggy