United Brachial Plexus Network, Inc.

Profound thanks for all of your responses. Foremost I wish to write that my daughter has no awareness of these issues that I am facing. Thus you needn't worry that she is pained in an way. Yesterday, she and I discovered a brilliant orange, speckled salamander in our front yard. We build a little house for the salamander outside rich with grass cutings, a great rock and a baby slug for eating...

However, I am seeking correction and further advise. When I was pregnant and in almost the first year of my daughter's life I was under a Protective Order from my daughter's father. I felt very, very safe. Thereafter, I was informed without physical harm -- with no mention of psychological harm -- in the event that my daughter's father should try to enter my home, if I sought police intervention, they are under my State's mandate that no parent should be separated from his/her child. Thus if my daughter's father can provide proof of paternity to the Police, I am required to let him into my home, and I am also required to let him leave my home with my daughter. (Hence that I wait on him.)

There is a void here that I completely do not understand: my daughter's father is incompetent. How can I prove that he is incompetent, and therefore has limited rights for unplanned visits?

If you'd like to chit chat more, please email me at the above address. I don't want to get too personal here if that's what you're looking for although I'd be more than willing to try and help you. That's up to you.