Gayle and kklmommmy:
apparently, I had too much Girl Scout Thin Mint ice cream!
I worried for a long time about meeting up with my doctor-at the hospital or around town. What would I say? What would he say? Would I just want to punch him?
Juliana is now 7. We won our lawsuit. Not exactly a slam dunk, but he lied in the depo and was caught time after time. Even his lawyers were pissed at him. I'm not sure i would not have sued, but I know that I would have felt better about myself sooner if he had taken responsibility for what happened. And "I'm sorry" does that. I was burdened by guilt for so long; his apology would have gone a long way towards relieving that guilt.
As for a doctor or midwife going to their insurance company and telling them to pay... NOT HAPPENING. Forget about the legal ramifications...even if the practitioner wants to do the right thing, insurance companies never do!!
I also think the nurses should know that the delivery was traumatic. I was treated like anyone else, but that delivery was not like everyone else's. It would have been helpful to have a nurse mention that she knew it had been tough and that there were people at the hospital (social workers) who can help. I probably would not have taken them up on it, but it would have been thoughtful.
claudia
Should Doctors say "I'm Sorry?"
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Re: Should Doctors say "I'm Sorry?"
Claudia,
36 yrs ago my son, too, had a traumatic Birth with multiple visible anomilies[all later surgically corrected]..I too was treated "casually" before all nurses scattered in different directions. I would have DEFINITELY talked to a Social Worker, or somebody if I was approached and asked by a nurse. Luckily my OB Guy stepped up and at leastprovided me with a Private Room!!(they took him to the NICU PDQ)...but I STILL would have talked to someone...anyone!!
....I do think that often the nurses are a little in shock too, but follow what the lead of OB/nurse whomever delivers the infant....
My bottom line...it's Never going to happen that medical staff speak up. Sorry..
HUGS all around,
Carolyn J
36 yrs ago my son, too, had a traumatic Birth with multiple visible anomilies[all later surgically corrected]..I too was treated "casually" before all nurses scattered in different directions. I would have DEFINITELY talked to a Social Worker, or somebody if I was approached and asked by a nurse. Luckily my OB Guy stepped up and at leastprovided me with a Private Room!!(they took him to the NICU PDQ)...but I STILL would have talked to someone...anyone!!
....I do think that often the nurses are a little in shock too, but follow what the lead of OB/nurse whomever delivers the infant....
My bottom line...it's Never going to happen that medical staff speak up. Sorry..
HUGS all around,
Carolyn J
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Re: Should Doctors say "I'm Sorry?"
My ob apologized over and over again, he would call us at home to check on him, etc. He said as soon as he saw his shoulders he should have done a c. He was very sincere in his apology but we still went the legal route.