Hi, I agree with what others have said, marry the guy!
I can understand your reservations, I don't like the look of my twig arm and atrophied hand and as a single guy have worried that it would put women off. But someone i met after the accident helped put my mind at rest about that when she told me she loved my arm right along with the rest of me, she made me smile! :O) We are not together now but that has nothing to do with my arm. I'm sure your guy loves every bit of you and hope you really enjoy your big day and have a happy lifetime together, best wishes.
Dave
Thinking about getting married....
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I'll add my congrats to the party. I married after the arm and even though we are now separated 15 years later, the arm was never the issue.
I have met another woman who is just fantastic and her take is that she cares for the whole me, all the parts, and its the heart that matters.
Love the man. He loves you, and get married.
I love this mushy stuff!
I have met another woman who is just fantastic and her take is that she cares for the whole me, all the parts, and its the heart that matters.
Love the man. He loves you, and get married.
I love this mushy stuff!
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jennyb
- Posts: 1183
- Joined: Fri Nov 02, 2001 5:24 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: January 1980 Yamaha RD200 vs 16 wheeler truck, result, 1 totally paralysed right arm. I was 21, now 54. I had no surgery, I don't regret this. Decided to totally ignore limitations (easily done aged 21) adapted very quickly to one handed life, got married, had 3 kids, worked- the effect of the injury on my life (once the pain stopped being constant) was minimal and now, aged 54, I very rarely even think of it, unless I bash it or it gets cold, then I wish I'd had it amputated :) Except for a steering knob on my car, I have no adaptations to help with life, mainly because I honestly don't think of myself as disabled and the only thing I can't do is peel potatoes, which is definitely a good thing.
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Tina, dont worry about your arm, mine isn't noticeable at all in my photos and it's totally flail. My Pete says he has never given my arm a thought. Weddings are so happy that it just doesn't seem to matter about things like how the arm looks. I have been married before too, and that time I did the whole white dress thing, I reckon I looked great even tho I do say it myself. I had long lace sleeves but if I did it again I probably wouldn't even try to hide it, as time has gone by I care less and less about hiding it. And no, I won't do it again, this time it's for keeps...:0)
Hmmm how about we post our wedding photos on Courtney's site to show you? Court, would a scanned photo work? I don't think digital cameras were invented when I got married, and I KNOW they didn't have them when Kath got married! I am a technophone so you'd have to give me instructions how to do it, but I'm game if anyone's interested.
Jen NZ
Hmmm how about we post our wedding photos on Courtney's site to show you? Court, would a scanned photo work? I don't think digital cameras were invented when I got married, and I KNOW they didn't have them when Kath got married! I am a technophone so you'd have to give me instructions how to do it, but I'm game if anyone's interested.
Jen NZ
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Kath
- Posts: 3242
- Joined: Mon Nov 18, 2002 4:11 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: I am ROBPI, global injury, Horner's Syndrome. No surgery but PT started at 2 weeks old under the direction of New York Hospital. I wore a brace 24/7 for the first 11 months of my life. I've never let my injury be used as an excuse not to do something. I've approach all things, in life, as a challenge. I approach anything new wondering if I can do it. I tried so many things I might never have tried, if I were not obpi. Being OBPI has made me strong, creative, more determined and persistent. I believe that being obpi has given me a very strong sense of humor and compassion for others.
- Location: New York
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Jenny
No Digital photos... Most of my photos are in black and white... Red eye problems then were worse... I paid a huge fee to ten color photos taken...
I took digital photos of my daughter wearing my gown and my husband was her escort for the Bridal Show... how funny is that.
Kath
No Digital photos... Most of my photos are in black and white... Red eye problems then were worse... I paid a huge fee to ten color photos taken...
I took digital photos of my daughter wearing my gown and my husband was her escort for the Bridal Show... how funny is that.
Kath
Kath robpi/adult
Kathleen Mallozzi
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cbe411
- Posts: 1393
- Joined: Sun Jun 01, 2003 8:27 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: MVA in 2001, nerve graph in 2002, Median Nerve Transfer in 2004 and an unsuccessful Gracillis Muscle Transfer in 2006. I am living life and loving it! Feel free to contact me :)
- Location: Grosse Pointe Woods, MI
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Jenny... yeah we can do that..... go here http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BPI-friends/ After you sign in, click on PHOTOS on the left side of the page. Then at the top click CREATE ALBUM. THen name it and set your preferences. Once you have created an album then you click on ADD PHOTOTS. Finally BROWSE AND UPLOAD and go to town. Thanks for volunteering to share with us Jenny! Hope all is great in NZ, nice warm weather and all!
COurt xx
COurt xx
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and your wishes. I am gonna do it. I could get away with the long sleeves its just the purple hand im worried about. its so noticeable. maybe ill just attach my bouquet to it or something. ill keep u guys posted and i will send pics when i do get a dress. once again i really appreciate your help and not only am i lucky to have the guy im marrying but im thankful for all of you also. im glad we have eachother.