Lawyers

[Christina]

I've gone to a few sites for lawyers and sent my information about my daughter, to see what can be done. I've gotten a few calls, but I wanted to mention one in particular. I kind of got a kick out of it, actually, because of what I told him. He asked if she was movig her fingers, wrist, elbow, etc. I said that she has been moving it slightly, yes, but nothing compared to her other arm. He replied that he didn't think anything could be dne because she was "getting better." Now, my main concern is her getting better, but as far as getting the nurse that hurt my daughter out of that hosptial, how well she is doing is not the issue. I told him that I thought I should go to his office and break his arm, but he couldn't press charges or doing anything because, well, he would "get better."
Anyway, I just kind of got a kick out of it, because I'm not a confrontational person. I don't normally really tell people if they are bothering me, I just let it be. This is one of the few times I let it out....it felt good

[admin]

Yeah Christina,

I know what you mean! Sometimes the anger and frustration take over and you just have to let it out! Too many people think these injuries aren't that big of a deal and assume every kid will recover 100%! My daughter just turned 7 months and although she is doing great, she is by no means 100%! So a nurse hurt your baby too? The OB never made it in except to deliver my placenta, so it was an L&D nurse that injured my baby. Although I realize she didn't intentionally set out to injure my daughter, it still doesn't stop my thoughts (when I am really angry) of holding her shoulder down and pulling her head to the opposite side just to see how she likes being paralyzed!

Good luck on your quest for a good lawyer, check out Ken Levine, he posts here often and he has been quite helpful for us, even though we are not a potential client (we live in Cananda).

Hope both of our daughters beat the odds and recover!

Take care

[admin]

That's right! People do not understand. It just really sucks. Anyway, I had to go to another primary care for my self to get some meds changed for depression. This new doctor then told me that "these things just happen and it's no one's fault" (Speaking about my daughters injury) I too am some one who walks away from stuff like that, but I went off. She then said, "yeah, I think antidepresents would be a good thing."

[Tanner's Mom]

Christina,

Glad you vented. We all need to do that now and then. All of this stuff can drive you mad. As far as an attorney goes, keep looking. Do not give up. You would be amazed at what some people have gone through to find an attorney who is willing to fight for their child. Your child should NOT have been injured, period. Just make sure before you give up, that you have obtained several other opinions. Sometimes lawyers don't even fully understand the extent of the injury. Kids can be dislocated, yet if they are moving their arm, people think they are going to be fine. It is just so frustrating.

Joyce, I so agree....people do NOT understand and that makes all of this that more challenging. Some of your depression is probably due to the fact that you have experienced trauma, you have been DEEPLY violated, you feel helpless over your situation, and your precious baby was injured due to negligence, which was never acknowledged. And can you pass this along to your doctor for me...."these things do just happen, but they SHOULDN'T and people ARE AT FAULT."

I certainly hope you feel better soon Joyce and that medication will help ease the pain and depression, but I also hope you know that anger,frustration and despair pertaining to this injury is normal and a natural repsonse. I think it is just about finding a way to use that emotional turmoil and pain in a constructive and positive way. Why do you think MADD named their organization MADD? We have every right to be beyond MAD. This insanity needs to stop!

Lisa

[admin]

Lisa,
I just wanted to thank you for that, I really needed it!! Not only do I struggle emotionally every day with this, but it infuriates me that our society cares so little about children. If injuries occured like this in operations for adults, it would be acknowledged and stopped!! I just can't believe this has happened and I had no knowledge of this injury to protect my baby. I really suffer over that. I'm new to this sight and would love to help spread the word and help protect other babies and their families because it affects everyone. We are forever changed.

[admin]

Hi,
This is Vance's Dad, When we went to the Neuro Dummy - Sorry Dr.????

I asked how come this injury isn't talked about more or discussed with "parents to be"......
HIS RESPONSE...

"well, if we told you everything that could happen during birth, there would be very few couples having childern. Besides the number one birth defect is heart defects and I beat your doctor didn't tell you about those either did they?"

Thank God my wife was there because I was about to rip his head off......Instead I calmy said, "this is'nt a deffect this is the Doctors fault, he wasn't born this way a DOCTOR DID THIS TO HIM / US"!!!!

Either way, we as parents pay and pay and pay.....more than just financially. While the doctor in Rockwall / Rowlett Texas is still seeing mothers to be, one every 10 minutes for check ups to make sure everything is alright.

[admin]

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