I read Carolyn's post before you posted your vigorous self-defense, and I felt (and still feel) that when she said "Duh". she was referring to herself Druxton and not to you. She is a very sweet, 72 year old lady and if you read any of her previous posts in any of the forums, she has always been supportive and nice. (And I don't know her personally at all so I'm not defending her as a friend. I just know her from her posts and saw her on chat once.) I am confidant she meant NO disrespect. At the time I felt she was applauding your contribution...........I actually just logged on to do the same as I found your suggestion extremely practical and safe. I was very deeply disappointed to find that the post that I began that was meant to be encouraging and optimistic has become very bitter sounding.
I am sorry your feelings were so badly hurt. Re-reading Carolyn's post I can see how it can be thought of as sarcastic (though i truly don't believe that was her intent.) If I had read it that way at first I would have felt just as angry (nobody likes to feel disrespected).........but I would have done one thing first, and that's ask Carolyn her true intent so as to confirm her sarcasm before shooting off a very public couple of angry messages. Answering perceived disrespect with anger and equal disrespect is also not the best way to handle a situation. Even if she was being sarcastic , replying by calling her obnoxious and dumb is not going to make the situation better, but instead intensify the situation.
OBPI'S (obstetrical brachial plexus injury) are those who were born with this injury, and TBPI'S are those who suffered from accidents (traumatic brachial plexus injury.) Mine is a tbpi, and like your daughter, I too almost died on the road. While there is a separate forum for the OBPI"s, it's not an elitist "us against them" scenario (I hope
) it's just a way for people to categorize themselves.
This is a very rich site with many ways to both help and be helped. I encourage you to not give up and am confident things can be worked out. There is a private message function that you can used. Why not give Carolyn a buzz and work things out personally and privately?
Once again it deeply saddens me that this post which I began and I guess feel very protective of has gone from being so positive to having a lot of negative comments. I want to try to help others as much as I can and I feel this post has been really fun and helpful up until now. Let's try to bring it back to the important stuff........sharing warmth and helpful ideas
Thank You,
Angela
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