The four words I use regularly when out in the public.
"It's a lifetime issue."
Vent
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Thank you all for your words of wisdom and experience. I'm so glad this place is here, where people understand
Francine & Karen, you are so right...you just can't ever know what another person is going through. I have really tried to be alot more sensitive with what I say to others since Rowan was born, but I know that I will unintentionally hurt someone too. Like you said, Francine, you never know what their emotional "holes" are.
My husband tells me that most of these people mean well. They're just trying to get me to see the positive...that I have a beautiful little girl who has so much to give. I know that for the most part that is true. I do still think some people are just stupid though...
At Rowan's check-up last month, Dr. Lee told us that while Rowan will likely have a reasonably functional arm, she will never be an olympic swimmer or olympic gymnast. I told this to one of my *friends* and she replied "well, you didn't want her to be an olympic swimmer anyway, did you?" I was so hurt by that. She has children. I thought she would understand that I want her to be whatever she wants...even an olympic pea stacker if she chooses.
Marymom, your post is just so perfect. That is exactly how I feel. Italy would have been wonderful, but Holland is growing more and more beautiful by the day.
Thank you all for understanding!!!
-Stacey
Francine & Karen, you are so right...you just can't ever know what another person is going through. I have really tried to be alot more sensitive with what I say to others since Rowan was born, but I know that I will unintentionally hurt someone too. Like you said, Francine, you never know what their emotional "holes" are.
My husband tells me that most of these people mean well. They're just trying to get me to see the positive...that I have a beautiful little girl who has so much to give. I know that for the most part that is true. I do still think some people are just stupid though...
At Rowan's check-up last month, Dr. Lee told us that while Rowan will likely have a reasonably functional arm, she will never be an olympic swimmer or olympic gymnast. I told this to one of my *friends* and she replied "well, you didn't want her to be an olympic swimmer anyway, did you?" I was so hurt by that. She has children. I thought she would understand that I want her to be whatever she wants...even an olympic pea stacker if she chooses.
Marymom, your post is just so perfect. That is exactly how I feel. Italy would have been wonderful, but Holland is growing more and more beautiful by the day.
Thank you all for understanding!!!
-Stacey
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It has been nearly 13 months since my daughter was born (ROBPI) and I still feel that way.
Surprisingly, what bothers me the most are the comments "Wow, is she ever getting better" or "I can hardly tell.". Those comments seem to undermine my feelings. I can't explain it - I haven't reflected on the "why" enough yet but those comments really put my hackles up!
Sorry to hear that you are so hurt. I am too. We need our pain validated too.
Surprisingly, what bothers me the most are the comments "Wow, is she ever getting better" or "I can hardly tell.". Those comments seem to undermine my feelings. I can't explain it - I haven't reflected on the "why" enough yet but those comments really put my hackles up!
Sorry to hear that you are so hurt. I am too. We need our pain validated too.