Once again, I'm starting to reflect on the process my daughter, myself, and my family went through to welcome Amber on her birthday almost 4 years ago. Her birthday is the 5th of November, but it was one of those "long processes" that most women describe (believe me, I have heard all the stories before since I'm a labor nurse...ha, ha). I feel like this year though it's more about the excitement of her birthday being a special day for her rather than those creeping feelings of sadness about her injury spoiling it for me. It's a happy process. It's nice this year so far. Whew! I knew this day would come. Don't get me wrong. I'm still having times when it's quite difficult to process some of my emotions over Amber's injury. I think what has helped so much is that my daughter has had wonderful progress, her spirit is so high, my family is supportive, the doctor/therapist team that we use are great, and I have a wonderful support unit from my UBPN family here. Thanks so much.
Tanya in NY
Amber's Mom, ROBPI, almost 4 years old on the 5th
Amber's Upcoming Birthday
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Tanya in NY
- Posts: 935
- Joined: Mon May 03, 2004 10:51 am
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: I am Mom to Amber, injured at birth. I serve on the Board of Directors for UBPN, and am a labor/delivery nurse, too.
- Location: NY State
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Amber's Upcoming Birthday
Tanya in NY
Amber's Mom, ROBPI, 13 years old
Amber's Mom, ROBPI, 13 years old
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Kath
- Posts: 3242
- Joined: Mon Nov 18, 2002 4:11 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: I am ROBPI, global injury, Horner's Syndrome. No surgery but PT started at 2 weeks old under the direction of New York Hospital. I wore a brace 24/7 for the first 11 months of my life. I've never let my injury be used as an excuse not to do something. I've approach all things, in life, as a challenge. I approach anything new wondering if I can do it. I tried so many things I might never have tried, if I were not obpi. Being OBPI has made me strong, creative, more determined and persistent. I believe that being obpi has given me a very strong sense of humor and compassion for others.
- Location: New York
Re: Amber's Upcoming Birthday
Happy Birthday to Amber
My mother use to go over my birth with me on my birthday and it usually ended with the following statement.
"We were so lucky, you survived and we both made it"
"God was so good to send you to me in my old age"
It was when I found UBPN that I understood her need to think about the events of that day with me. My Dad died when I was ten and I guess by putting a positive spin on the event it helped her. I realize now my birth was a bitter sweet day for her.
Please ENJOY the day.
Kath (robpi/adult)
My mother use to go over my birth with me on my birthday and it usually ended with the following statement.
"We were so lucky, you survived and we both made it"
"God was so good to send you to me in my old age"
It was when I found UBPN that I understood her need to think about the events of that day with me. My Dad died when I was ten and I guess by putting a positive spin on the event it helped her. I realize now my birth was a bitter sweet day for her.
Please ENJOY the day.
Kath (robpi/adult)
Kath robpi/adult
Kathleen Mallozzi
Kathleen Mallozzi
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Carolyn J
- Posts: 3424
- Joined: Tue Apr 06, 2004 1:22 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: LOBPI. I am 77 yrs old and never had a name for my injuries until 2004 when I found UBPN at age 66.
My injuries are: LOBPI on upper body and Cerebrael Palsy on the lower left extremities. The only intervention I've had is a tendon transplant from my left leg to my left foot to enable flexing t age 24 in 1962. Before that, my foot would freeze without notice on the side when wearing heels AND I always did wear them at work "to fit in" I also stuttered until around age 18-19...just outgrew it...no therapy for it. Also suffered from very very low self esteem; severe Depression and Anxiety attacks started at menopause. I stuffed emotions and over-compensated in every thing I did to "fit in" and be "invisible". My injuries were Never addressed or talked about until age 66. I am a late bloomer!!!!!
I welcome any and all questions about "My Journey".
There is NO SUCH THING AS A DUMB QUESTION.
Sharing helps to Heal. HUGS do too. - Location: Tacoma WA
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Re: Amber's Upcoming Birthday
HAPPY BIRTHDAY AMBER!!
Tanya you have all ready made wonderful lemonade with the lemons you recieved 5 years ago[I do NOT mean Amber!!!...], by posting helpful,Compassionate information for all of us UBPN Family..AND also given very needed Compassionate Care to all of your OB/Labor Room Mothers. We moms never forget, but it does get easier to deal with in time,I promise you.
Do something enjoyable for yourself on Amber's Birthday. How about a pedicure or massage!!
HUGS to you and Amber,:)
Carolyn J
Tanya you have all ready made wonderful lemonade with the lemons you recieved 5 years ago[I do NOT mean Amber!!!...], by posting helpful,Compassionate information for all of us UBPN Family..AND also given very needed Compassionate Care to all of your OB/Labor Room Mothers. We moms never forget, but it does get easier to deal with in time,I promise you.
Do something enjoyable for yourself on Amber's Birthday. How about a pedicure or massage!!
HUGS to you and Amber,:)
Carolyn J
Carolyn J
Adult LOBPI
Adult LOBPI
Re: Amber's Upcoming Birthday
HAPPY BIRTHDAY AMBER!!!!!!!
Tanya, your such a strong Mama! I hope everything goes great on that special day!!!
Blessing to you!!
Amy & Family
Tanya, your such a strong Mama! I hope everything goes great on that special day!!!
Blessing to you!!
Amy & Family