Bad Day

[admin]

I know this sounds really petty, but I almost burst into tears today over a tantrum my daughter had. You see, I was walking around with my hands on my hips. My Alex got all bent out of shape because she wanted to copy me and could not do it. She tried and tried, but couldn't do it. She was so upset over not being able to that I wanted to cry for her. I know I should be so thankful that she can do so many things. She really is doing well and has so much function, but it still isn't fair. Something so simple...but yet so hard for her. I know that so many of you are facing surgeries, I feel silly whining about something so petty. Just when I think that I have come to grips with this injury and that we are all in a really good place emotionally, this pops up out of the blue. I guess I didn't realize how angry/sad/helpless I still am. I know, I know, I just need to get a grip. I know you all understand the day to day frustrations all to well. I guess I just needed to vent. Thanks for letting me.

[francine]

Chris - this is NOT petty at all and don't ever feel guilty about having these emotions! As our kids get older and understand their limitations and as we experience those limitations with them - I think each time we see a new limitation it will be some sort of a setback for us...like a new shock...a "never thought of that" thing. I'm experiencing this as Maia gets older and tries to do things and can't. For example- it's amazing how many things you can't do if you can't supinate. She sees other kids doing something and she just wants to join them and boom! she can't and it sets her back - I see her stop - I see her face color (excitement) retreat. Even though we try and dwell on all the things she CAN do - it's still a setback and hard.

big hugs to you,
francine

[Lenni]

Chris, sorry to hear of your bad day! Just this weekend I had my 3/2 year old niece over, she is a very abled little girl, and my BPI child who is 6 was upset that her cousin could do more things than she could. At first my heart was broken all over again, and after thinking about it for a moment I gently said "Ashley you have just started doing all these things! Remember practice makes perfect." It is true that she has just started becoming playful and active since she started Kindergarten, so I hope that her ability increases in time. Anyway, just wanted to relate to you and say thanks for sharing!

Lenni